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How do you define Success?

How do you define Success?

General Assembly Ponce City Market - Atlanta GA

General Assembly Ponce City Market - Atlanta GA

 

What’s up family? I hope everyone is doing well during this second week of May, 2017. I can't believe how fast this year is going. It was just New Years Day!! Since its the beginning of a new month, lets delve into something new. Maybe a new opportunity like a new workout routine, a new business idea. Whatever it happens to be, I challenge you this month, to try something new.

In this blog post, I want to concentrate on defining "Success".  How does society define Success. What does success look like to you and your peers. This blog is used strictly to motivate and will hopefully inspire people to follow their dream.

 

How do YOU define Success? Is there a right or wrong answer to this question? Is there a formula that you gets you to success? If you go through a step by step path are you guaranteed success at the end of the road? Whatever your method is in reaching success, how does it feel once you reach that finish line? Is it like winning a trophy? Are you just as excited about the next goal?

In a previous blog, I touched on the subject of success and how it is defined by society. Often times society defines success by  social class or material values." I want the money, money and the cars, the cars and clothes, I just want to be successful", a hit written by Drake and Trey Songz. Tell me, is this what success look like to you?

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Is success a Class? – Often we put our peers in different brackets or a certain social class. What we don't realize is that we are actually judging ourselves on how much money we earn or what kind of job we have.  Sometimes as human beings, and not even on purpose, we meet people and the first thing we often ask is what do you do? A lot of times, we don't really care about what they actually do but we want to judge, label, and put them in certain class. Usually what we are doing is seeing how we measure up to them.  As people, we often make judgement in our head. We say "oh they're a lawyer they probably drive a nice luxury car or live in a nice house. We look at them as being successful. 

Is success Money? –  Money is the way to purchase, to trade, it's a form of resource, but is it success? Are you chasing the money or are you chasing a dream? Going through life, I think we get that mixed up sometimes. Today there are so many get rich schemes and microwave success stories (hot for the moment like a fad) that we can get caught up in “chasing the bag”.  I'm sure you've heard the saying,  more money more problems.

What does Success looks like to me? – I feel like success is whatever you make it. Ben Caschona, author of "My Start Up" put it in a simple sentence “Success is happiness”. Author Brett Farmiloe defined it by stating “Success is being able to say, “I love what I do.”

In my opinion, there is no right or wrong answer as to how you define your success. Happiness, is definitely a characteristic of success. You may look at someone's situation and they might not have the best paying job but they go home to a loving family that makes them happy. Some cases there are CEO’s that have a ton of money in the bank, they drive nice cars but are miserable inside. They can’t even look at themselves in the mirror at night, is that success?

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However YOU define success just make sure you’re going after it. Success is the journey not the destination, so make sure that you embrace every step. And continue to Stay Solid.

 

#StaySolid

- Church

New season, new opportunities, are you ready to change?

New season, new opportunities, are you ready to change?

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Welcome back family and welcome to a new season! It is now officially spring time! That means warmer weather, graduation celebrations, pool parties and good-bye to jackets. 

I recently had an interesting conversation regarding major life changes. It could be a new job, relocation, new relationship, just to name a few. Trends in fashion and entertainment change every week,  Drake is the hottest name in hip hop if you ask millennials. But if you ask the OG hip hop heads they may have another opinion. We’ve all experienced life changes at some point. In this blog I want to speak on how change affects our lives. This blog is used strictly for motivating and hopefully to inspire people to follow their dreams! 

As mentioned earlier, we are in a brand new season. With the beginning of spring, we will change our wardrobes from coats to short sleeves, we’ll spend more time outside with the warmer weather and longer days. But what about the changes in your life, are you able to adapt and let go like you let those winter coats? Often time we are so scared of change because we are so used to life being a certain way. Sometimes, we are just uncertain as to how life would be with something new that we’re not used to.  

What about that relationship that's been over a year ago but you are holding on by a thread just because you are so used to the routine of them being around. Is this the right thing to do or are we so selfish that we are ignoring the fact that this is hurting both people involved?

Brian Tracey Motivational Speaker

Brian Tracey Motivational Speaker

The Comfort zone : As humans, we always want to feel comfortable. A friend of mine once said "if I just come to work this week I know I’ll make it because I’ll get paid on Friday but I hate coming to work every day". It's so easy to get caught up in this mindset. Going to college in another state and being on my own was a little uncomfortable for me. It was different being away from family and the things that I was used to but it was learning how to adapt to change that helped me grow as a man and as a person. Public speaker Brian Tracy says "Move out of your comfort zone, you can only grow when you feel awkward and uncomfortable trying something new". 

 

The routine: We often get so comfortable and trapped in a habit that it starts to become a routine. Sometimes we get so used to going the through motions you look up and life and all its opportunities have passed you by. Habit changes into character, it’s a lifestyle that can become good or bad. A quote that makes a lot of sense to me says "We first make our habits and then our habits makes us". It's a choice to pick up good habits. We get so caught up with work school, family, just going through everyday life that we sometimes lose focus on our goals. A bad habit that our generation has picked up on is being so attached to social media. We can’t even eat a meal without checking our cell phones. Routines such as these turn into habits. You must be able to change and adapt or you could easily fall into a cycle of routine. 

Change is always hard. Just remember, getting out of your comfort zone takes you to that next level. Pain and discomfort are only temporary. Peace and Love are forever. Stay Solid.

 

#StaySolid

-Church

 

 

 

 

 

3 Things that Motivate People

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3 Things that Motivate People

 

 

Welcome back family, Hope everyone had a productive and positive week! If you haven’t had the chance to read last week’s blog Titled “Did I work this hard to stay the same” go check it out!  This is the third installment of my #FruitfulFridays blog, to be honest I’ve been enjoying every minute of it. I have been getting great feedback and encouragement to keep it going. I appreciate everyone support and time you could be anywhere in the world but in this 15 minutes you here with me lol! This week I want to speak on motivation and how it affects us in everyday life. I also want you the reader to answer that question, what motivates you? I hope this blog will motivate and inspire each reader. Feel free to share your motivation and story.

It’s like what makes you do what you do? What makes you motivated? This is a line from the Bed-stuy  Brooklyn MC, Fabolous. But that’s a legit question, could you answer it? To perform at the highest peak of your ability something usually pushes you to that moment. When a ball player wakes up at 5 am to put up 500 shots before practice or when a teacher stays hours after school to tutor their students in math before EOG testing, what’s the motivation behind that?

Does your Circumstances Motivate you –  In your lifespan at some point you wanted life to be better. . No food on the dinner table so you get a job to provide for your family at 15. No father figure so now you got to be the man of the house protecting your family at the age of 12. “We cannot control the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand” – Randy Paush.  Are you going to be motivated for a better life or are you going to sit back and blame everything else on why situation is the way it is?

 

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Do Material Things Motivate You – We often compare our situations and our possessions to everyone else. Speaking with a good friend of mine yesterday he said “as people in America we have a identity issue”. Often we are judged by our peers by the material things we have instead of the morals and values in us we look on the outside.

I want the money, money and the cars, cars and the clothes I suppose I just want to be successful. Lyrics from the Canadian mega star Drake but does this really mean success?  He’s driving a Civic (great car lol) I’m not going on a date with him. So are you motivated by the material things for being accepted by your peers? Are we too focused on what is not real and not even payinging attention on what’s really going on in real life? Are you portraying a life on social media to be accepted by your peers with material things that don’t have any value?   Not saying you shouldn’t want nice things but keep it in perspective, if it comes to buying those new pair of Yeezy’s or paying rent on time which one will be the smarter move?

 

Does Your Past Motivate You -  Growing up you promised yourself that you weren't going to be that father or mother that’s not going to be there for their kids. You are motivated by the past life to not continue the cycle. Or maybe you seen your brother start college and didn’t finish and you see the hurt in your mother’s eyes. You promised her you will finish school because you are motivated by different outcomes than in your past life.  Is the past going to haunt you so much you feel pressured to do the right thing or are you going to use the pain as fire to motivate you for success?

At the end of the day we all need a little motivation. Without motivation, you won’t see any growth. So, if you don’t know what motivates you, ask yourself am I really living? Stay Solid.

 

#StaySolid

-Church

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Did I really work this hard to stay the same??

Did I really work this hard to stay the same??

Welcome back friends and followers. For those of you who haven't read last week’s blog post, “Three Key Stages in the Process of Reaching Your Goal,” go check it out!

This past weekend I was in San Diego. While there, I struck up a conversation with a photographer. We started talking about how sometimes your peers, and family, want to keep you in a box, meaning they want you to remain the person they’ve always known, whereas you’re trying to turn you passion and dreams into a reality—a reality that they may or may not understand or appreciate yet.

I know I’m not the only one out there who feels this way, or has felt this kind of tug-of-war. So I hope this week’s blog post will inspire and motivate you to keep moving forward, even if everyone’s not on board with your dream. There’s a line from a lyric written by my all-time favorite music artist Jay-Z that talks about this. It says,  “. . . Everybody look at you strange, say you changed. Like you work that hard to stay the same.”

I know I’m not working hard to stay the same, and neither should you. So here’s my take on it. When you’re transitioning into your purpose, whether it’s into a new job new business venture,or even a new relationship, you just have to accept that some people are not going to understand or approve. But you can't let others discourage you from going after what you know in your heart and gut is right for you. Surround yourself with ateam that encourages you and stay positive no matter the situation. Personally, without my core team of friends and brothers I wouldn’t be as motivated. 

 Hip-hop artist J. Cole, who was raised in my home state of North Carolina, once said, "If they don’t know your dream, then they can't shoot them down.” But is that always the best solution?

You can't let your dreams be a secret. For about a year I didn’t tell many people what I wanted to do. I think one reason is that I didn't want to hear people's negative opinions. Another reason is that I was scared. I worried that if I didn't succeed I would look like a failure to my peers. But I finally realized that I'm not pursuing my dream for approval. This is MY passion. This is MY dream! I must let it be known that this is what I am doing and this is my brand.

Once you believe, others will too. Once you believe it yourself, and let your actions show, people will start believing right along with you. Think about Jay-Z—he  grew up in Brooklyn’s infamous Marcy Projects, which Jay-Z has described as a dangerous place to live, full of crime and crack cocaine. But he became hip-hop superstar, then transitioned to corporate America, owning not one but multiple businesses. Can you imagine how many people looked at him crazy when he spoke of owning businesses, meeting with Presidents, the list goes on.  He believed in his own worth. Now others believe too. So let the world know your dreams, because you never know: All it takes is one person to open a door of opportunity for you. Stay motivated and continue to Stay Solid! 

 

#StaySolid

- Church

Three Key Stages in the Process of Reaching Your Goal

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Three Key Stages in the Process of Reaching Your Goal

Hello world. I wanted to do a small introduction just to thank you for even checking out this blog. You’re family now… lol. This is my first blog but my plan is to write at least once a week.

Growing up in school I used to enjoy writing and I happened to be pretty decent at it but I stopped for reasons I can't even explain. In this first blog, I want to speak on what I call "The Process". I hope that each blog will inspire and motivate each reader. Feel free to give me feedback.

1. Don’t Cheat the Process - With every goal that you reach there is usually a process that you go through to accomplish that specific goal. For example, if there is a job you got, you went through the process of applying, possibly a phone interview, an in-person interview, background check, and finally a job offer. When you go after a goal such as this, you can’t cheat the process. A lot of times people try to find loop holes and a easy way to the top. Anytime it seems like there is an easy way to your goal, believe me, it may only appear that way temporarily. Hard work is concrete, it also shows character. When you’ve worked hard to get something or get somewhere in your life, not only do you know it but the people around you know as well. Don't cheat the grind. It feels better knowing that you did it the honest way.

2. Embrace the Process - Do you ever feel like when you’re going through that middle part of the process, meaning that gritty stage that nobody sees you grinding and you just want to give up? Don’t give up, embrace the process! 2015 was a rough year for me, but as I look back I know it was the best year because it changed my perspective on how I looked at adversity.

During my life growing up, basketball ball was my life… lol. I put a lot of time and effort in the sport. I knew if I put the work in I was bound for success. As I transitioned into the real world things were much tougher. It was more than just putting the time in. I had my own bills, family situations, student loans, managing in society which at times seemed overwhelming. But this is what embracing the process all is about. It’s about going through life’s hardships but staying true to yourself and believing that what you may be going through is only temporary pain. I am finding that life is all about Perspective. This stage is usually the make or break time for people. Once you get through the storm you find you can weather anything!

3. Trust the Process - In today’s world everyone likes visual proof; tv, internet, social media, you name it. But there will be times that your progress won’t be visible. There may be days that don’t seem as productive as others and days that you may start to question why am I even doing this? Trust the Process. This is where faith comes in. Hebrews 11:1 says “now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see”. Believing in something you can’t see is hard for anyone! But you must believe it in your heart, believe in yourself that you have what it takes to reach and conquer your goal!

Accomplishing your goal isn’t easy, it’s going take faith, time, patience and hard work. If it were easy you wouldn’t want it. Stay motivated and continue to Stay Solid!

 

#StaySolid

- Church

 

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